About to have her second child, Kajol says the highs and lows of being a mum have made her a patient person
Embracing motherhood usually means braving experiences and challenges. But before a woman takes on her new role as a parent, it is the pregnancy that transforms her in more ways than she can explain. Kajol, who is pregnant the second time round, agrees completely.
“When I first found out I was pregnant, I was very scared and nervous and I wasn’t sure whether it would go through or not. It altered my self-perception completely. You become the centre of your own world and everything else around you becomes a blur,” Kajol says.
One always has an image of a mother, based on the social and cultural definitions. While it seems like an overwhelming role, it’s difficult to associate with it initially. Kajol faced a similar dilemma, “I’ve always thought that pregnant women were like goddesses. And in that perspective, I couldn’t picture myself as a goddess.”
The Emotional Rollercoster
Eventually you begin to accept the role, but it’s just the beginning of the journey. One that is packed with insecurities, anxieties and uncertainties. “You think twice about everything. Even with simple things like taking a walk, I would wonder if it would harm my baby or hurt me in any way. Every third day I’d call the doctor to check if I’m doing it right. You’re frightened to do anything and I learnt how to deal with that fear. The power of your mind is just amazing,” explains Kajol.
Every phase of pregnancy offers a new emotion and thrill. Kajol experienced the entire gamut. “My husband, sister and mother saw me through this transition and were rooting for me. As the days pass, you slowly pass from being insecure to scared to little more confident to more confident and then you’re sailing and then you’re about to pop it and then again you don’t know what you’re doing all over again. It’s like being re-born and growing up again,” she says with a smile.
Like every journey makes you the person you become, Kajol credits her pregnancy for having made her the woman she is today. “My journey helped me reflect and discover that my temper was much worse than I thought it was (laughs). When you have a baby, you feel that you have channelled your energy into something constructive. That gives you immense satisfaction,” she says.
About to begin her second innings as a mother, Kajol feels more confident and believes that every time is a new experience. “I feel much healthier mentally than I did earlier. Also, I can anticipate things with pleasure instead of dread. This time, I learnt that I am definitely a goddess for sure! (when I am pregnant, at least),” she laughs.
For mothers-to-be, Kajol has a final tip, “Every other mother may seem more in control than you. But at the end of the day, everyone is in the same boat. So you’re not the only one to have doubts, to be scared witless and feel insecure. So go ahead and have this amazing experience that god has gifted you with and experience it fully.”
Source : Mumbai Mirror